WHY GET MARRIED? (Part 4)
Today we are going to finish our discussion about why God designed marriage.
God designed marriage for the preservation of society.
Marriage is the fundamental building block of every community, state, nation, society and culture. History reveals where marriages are strong — cultures and nations are also strong, but they decline when the reverse is true. To me it’s obvious where our nation is headed right now. I don’t think America is getting better. It’s not getting stronger. It seems to be going the other direction. Why? Well, there are many reasons, but I think one of the major ones is because we don’t put a high value on marriage and family. Focus has shifted to individuals. The mantra has become — it’s all about me. I’ve got to do what’s best for me. I think we’ve made individualism an idol. Proverbs 14:34 says,
“Righteousness exalts a nation, but sin is a disgrace to any people.”
OK, let’s move on and look at another reason why God designed marriage.
God uses marriage to develop a reverence for Christ.
This is probably the most profound reason for marriage. Take a look at Ephesians 5:21.
“And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
The context of this passage is marriage.
Let’s look at Ephesians 5:25-33.
“For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body. As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
In this passage Paul likens the relationship of Jesus and the church to the marriage relationship. He says, “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her….”
The most sublime demonstration of love possible is to give one’s life for someone else. In Jesus’ case He gave His life for the whole human race. Paul says that’s the way husbands must love their wives. Paul quotes Genesis 2:24 where he says, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” He says this is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.
There is no better way to understand love in marriage than to understand Jesus’ love for the church. The problem is we get distracted by the culture we live in. Our culture demeans, discourages, ridicules, redefines, and dismisses marriage. People go to Las Vegas to get married and twenty-four hours later they get divorced.
Celebrities spend millions of dollars in the preparation of their weddings, but the preparation often lasts longer than the marriage. People go from one relationship to the next to the next in serial marriages. All this conflicts with God’s commands.
Sometimes when a couple is married for 50 or 60 years or longer, it makes the news. People are amazed. Why? Because it’s counter culture.
Twice in the Bible Jesus says that there is no marriage in heaven. Why did He say that? I think it’s because the six purposes of marriage that we have discussed in our past blogs will no longer be needed in Heaven. Heaven is a perfect place, so we will be connecting with everybody perfectly. We won’t need marriage to facilitate that.
There will be no need for further propagation of the human race. Everybody will have been created. There will no further need for the enhancement of our lives because we will be fully enhanced. We will be perfect, and our character will also be perfected. In Heaven society will be perfect, so there is no need to advance it either.
And finally, we will express the proper reverence for Jesus.
But here on earth that’s not the case, so the six purposes are still needed, so marriage still matters. We must continue to honor it. We must continue to follow God’s directions for it. And that is one man — one woman — for life. Husbands must love their wives as Christ loved the church, and wives must love and respect their husbands Amen and amen.
See you next time…