WHY GET MARRIED? (Part 2)
In today’s blog, we are going to continue our discussion on “Why get married”. To this end we are going to look at a second purpose of marriage which is:
God designed marriage for the multiplication of the human race.
That’s right. That’s how we all got here. You’re here because your mother and father got together, and they caused your first two cells to join. That’s God’s idea.
Let’s think about that for a moment. Everybody God planned to create came into existence through sex. And His preferred vehicle for sex was marriage. Let’s look at Genesis 1:27-28.
“So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Then God blessed them and said, “Be fruitful and multiply. Fill the earth and govern it. Reign over the fish in the sea, the birds in the sky, and all the animals that scurry along the ground.”
Notice His first command was, “Be fruitful and multiply” — “Fill the earth.” That, by the way, is probably the only command of God that the human race has been able to keep! And we’ve done a pretty good job. Today there are approximately seven billion people on the planet — and counting.
Let’s look at another important passage — Malachi 2:15.
“Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth.” Malachi 2:15 NLT SATAN
Once again, we see that God created marriage, and He designed it to be a union between the husband and wife.
We also see that He wants children from the union. Now, this is not an indictment against childless couples. There are lots of reasons why couples do not have children, and many of them are out of the couple’s control.
God is not disappointed with these couples. He has other purpose for them.
Ok Let’s take a look at a third purpose of marriage.
God designed marriage is to enhance the quality of our lives.
I want to break this one down by the individuals involved in the marriage relationship, so let’s start with the kids. When children are born, they are completely helpless. They can’t feed themselves, dress themselves, change their diapers. They can’t even turn over, and this dependence continues in various ways until the child reaches maturity. So, we can see from this that God has designed marriage to accommodate the development of children.
However, when marriages break apart there are devastating effects on this process. Studies have shown that children from single parent homes don’t do as well in school as those from two parent homes, and they are less likely to go to college. Children from single parent homes are more likely to be involved in substance or alcohol abuse. They are more likely to experience depression. They are more prone to suicide. They are more likely to spend some time in jail.
These same studies reveal that kids develop better in nuclear families.
Unfortunately, we live on a broken planet. Not everything works right. So, the likelihood of children growing up in a fractured home is high. Satan is indeed live and well, and the family is one of his favorite targets.
These same studies have information on how marriage affects men and women. For example, men and women who marry and stay married have lower rates of depression. They earn more money and have greater net worth. They live longer. They have fewer injuries and illnesses, and they are generally happier.
Alright, what’s all this saying? I think it’s saying that when you do life God’s way, things work better. Let’s look at Proverbs 14:26.
“Those who fear the Lord are secure; he will be a refuge for their children.”
Wow! How many of you know that passage is in the Bible? For people who “fear the Lord” God will provide a place of refuge and security for their children! That’s an incredible promise of God. It’s a promise we need to believe and implement.
In my counseling ministry, I’ve heard couples say that they are staying together for the sake of the kids. For many years that was considered to be the honorable and noble thing to do. But today people often laugh at that statement. “Staying together for the sake of the kids?” “What are you talking about?” “You’ve got to do what’s best for you.”
Let me ask you. Why do you always have to do what’s best for you? Can’t we do something that’s best for somebody else? Somebody who’s perhaps needier or more vulnerable than you are? The answer is yes – absolutely. It’s called maturity. It’s called unselfishness. It’s called love.
OK, that’s it for now. Next week we will continue talking about why get married, and we will look at some more purposes of marriage.
Have a good week —